I always thought that if you got older, life would get easier, which would make a lot of sense if you realised that somewhere along the way you pick up a lot of experience which helps you cope with everyday life!
Except for some reason, all that experience and wisdom can be used to help anyone else but hardly ever yourself, which practically means that you are still making the same stupid mistake(s) you made when you were decennia younger!
And why while you are doing that, you somehow seem to be surrounded by people who really seem to have their life in order, I mean really?
How the hell did they come out so much better or more intelligent than I did.
The only thing that can really console me is the fact that if you do start a conversation with those brilliant people, they somehow have some of the same frustration you have, or somewhere near and/or just a bit different!!
I have many friends, probably due to the lovely personality of either themselves or that of my deceased husband, because frankly I really do not know how I got these nice people I am surrounded with.
I also find them so much more accomplished than I am, they can play an instrument, (nope) ride horses (yeah a pony when I was 12) or have made this: I do not care what you think attitude down to perfection and I get almost jealous.
Not because they can, but because I then think why can’t I …???
But then something gives, something happens which shakes their world, it might only be a wisp of something in mine, but it reaches tornado strength when it comes to theirs….
And then within a short period you learn that all those accomplished people however accomplished and talented as they seem to be, somehow have exactly the same insecurities as we all seem to have!
So this is the reason why I try to give off a good vibe, try to be nice and try to give compliments as much as I can, for the simple reason that they hopefully hear, see or feel it and that makes them a bit stronger and with a bit of luck even better then how they were before…
Because I am also an admirer of people (accomplishments) and I learned in my own life that you can only get better if someone says something nice every so often to you, if only as simple as: yes you look lovely!
Because if no one ever says anything nice about you, then why should you keep it up…
So the next time you see someone (struggling with something) does not matter who it is, then just say something nice to them, be wild and give them a compliment, a good feeling or if you dare, even a hug while telling them that you think they are truly great!
And Voila, you will see them ease back into their confident state, the accomplished state, the state that made you admire/like/love them !
And if all of us will start this mutually admiring society, we will grow within ourselves, because I cannot play any instrument (unless the hunting horn is called an instrument) I can barely read music, I can only ride a very slow old horse and only if either my daughter in law or my boyfriend look at me I take more time in order to look nice.
Because I do have one huge talent: above all I can make people feel good about themselves, I can lift them back to their original place, I can help them to find their way back and I can make them feel fantastic about themselves so they get on with life again and I can do it in probably at least six languages.
I am not always the best of friends, I can be very careless and sloppy, but I can make you happy again when life seems to be lost!
So I wish you all a great day and: “yep you are looking utterly gorgeous today”, at least in my eyes you are because I might well be the only one who knows what you are going through right now!!
So Ladies and Gentlemen, when will you start: keep it simple, keep it sincere, find something you really admire and compliment on it, it is never harder than that!
Have a great day