I am now of a certain age where you have to decide what to do about your body and mind, because before we had the excuse that we had to look after the kids, look after your other half but than all of a sudden you walk into a wall wherein you realise that you have to start looking after yourself and rather pronto too, because your body needs a lot more attention than it needed before.
All kinds of defuctioning is sneakily coming into your life and if you are not careful you cannot do anything anymore because your body is just too painful and it is just giving up!
What you have to start doing is looking after you and your body the same way, you looked after your baby(‘s) and every one else, because if you are not careful that opportunity is a small windowclossing rather fast!
It means to care for one self, which I think 90% of especially women have never thought about. It means that instead of giving in to slowing down and sitting down, you have to start up again and get moving.
Not in the way that we used ti have to move, that is way past us, but in the way that we stay mobile, alive and still thrifing.
Of course there are ladies who will go and show us that, while they are older than us, can still run a marathon, or do an incredible amount of pushups and even compete in other sports.
They have found their niche and good luck to them!
But I am talking to all those regular ladies, like you and I, who would love to enjoy life without having all the burden of looking after somebody else!
And there is loads of us, but where to start? When we had kids, we met at the school, easy peasy but becoming older it is also more difficult to just find new friends while your old ones are either ailing, dead or moved away!
And so if you are not careful, so get stuck in your house, behind your plants feeling incredible sorry for yourself, because as your grown up kids, much as they love you, are too busy to call you up every day..
And quite frankly, you do not really want to hear all their complaints about their lives, because you have had your own share of hardship and you would not have dared to complain to your parents about it, because they were even worse off than you were doing.
So you get lonely, you stop moving and stop meeting people, because you do not want to be a burden onto anyone.
But you are not doing yourself a favour, because life should be lived by the living, because this is it, there will be no other life, no rehearsel, no nothing!
So where to start? Everyone is on their phone, it is more difficult than ever to make contact with someone else!
Plus you are careful, weary and probably even a bit shy.
The other problem is that you build up skills that deem to be useless, because you are retired.
What can you do?
Well I have come to that point, what do I want to do?
I might do some volenteer work, but not too often because I want to finally have some free time too!
I might start doing some sport, in the hope that there are enought other people of my age who would like to join in.
The thing we are ignoring or at least trying too is the state of our body, some of it is overused and now protesting, which if you are not careful will slow you down even more!
From my experience, I have noticed that with a bit of help you can get a better more lenient body back than what you had, it takes some work but the feeling of victory is overwhelming.
I was stuck in my body, I felt sorry for myself, even before my hubs died and it shows so easily on photos, that it turns my stomach and heart just looking at it!
I wish I could have hugged my former self while telling it was going to be all right, further down the line. It would have released a lot of weight and the stress lines in my face! But you cannot, it does not work like that!
So now I am in a better situation and lo and behold, I am almost still stuck in the same stress situation because I have not changed my life into my new circumstances. I stress about my kids, grandchildren, my mum in law and the situationin the world and unfortunately there is nothing I can do about anything!
So I have to learn a new skill, the skill to let go of situation I cannot change!
I realise I cannot change myself easily, no one can, but I am going to work at it, it will be my new goal: looking after me, wanting to feed myself right, want to exercise a bit more, wanting to improve my place to the point that I am feeling happier, daring to do new things, eventhough they are bloody scary!
I am going to use all the effort(s) I used on anyone else on myself and I am going to push myself to become a new improved me, where I feel happy within my skin!
So who is going to join me, who feels that your life could use an improvement witin yourself under your own steam?
I am not going to be some leader, other than being the leader over myself and I do not need any other leadership, because than I can fuction without it!
I can stand on my own feet, walking my own path, while enjoying the beauty I see while ignoring the envy that will come because of my new mindset!
I wish everyone a fabulous enjoyable day!